be a forward thinker

that's tip number #1 from The Bounce Back - and this is what it reads: 


Tip #1: be a forward thinker. 


Whenever you're tempted to dwell in the past, repeat this single word: forward. brainstorm one positive thought and action to use to keep you moving forward. when you're tempted to indulge in a negative, regressive behavior, swap it for one that will move you forward. 


- Karen Salmansohn


In other news - I got a really super sweet card in the mail from my mom today. I have to say that when the news broke about my new niece - and i lost my shit - the first thing i got was a picture from my mom on my phone, followed by a phone call, oohing and ahhing - and me hanging up on her - sobbing of course - my mom said in the card that she understood that my feelings were my feelings and they were ok to have those feelings - VALIDATION - thank you very much :) (again, amazing words mrs. darling) and she went on to say how i've always been there for her and that she doesn't understand what we are going through - but that's she's trying - and trying is all that i need. she asked if i wanted her to be around - HELLO - YOU ARE MY MOTHER - of course i did - and then she said that she didn't feel that way when i bit my upper lip and went to spend time at my brothers house - i told her that as my world was crashing - she was out celebrating - so yeah - i didn't really want to hear about it - she also explained to me that she was a little surprised that this one was so hard - because i've always been so brave. it's hard too because you're filled with jealousy when your friend have kids and you meet the baby - and the oohing and go go and ga ga's - but when it's your brothers kid - the 4th kid - a kid that you know no matter how hard you try not to - you're going to love - it's a little much. i was just beyond thrilled that she admitted that she doesn't know - but she's here for me - and that's all i really needed to hear. 


Completely changing subjects because it's way too good not to share (and it's very possible my adhd medication is wearing off :)) I was reading Real Simple - an awesome magazine for those of us that love to organize.... fold up your sheets, top sheet, fitted sheet and one pillow case - and then take the other pillow case and put all the sheets inside of it - VIOLA - you have an organzied linen closet with no guess work as to where that other sheet is that goes with it :)  


and last (yep - no more medicine) i better start blogging in the morning - i'm oh so happy that spring is here and summer is just around the corner - and as you can tell - i'm not the only one who can't wait to lay by a pool and take a little dip :) Happy Tuesday Peeps!